TALKING HONEYMOON: 3 WRONG ASSUMPTIONS YOU SHOULD SEPARATE FROM THE FACTS
WHAT IS HONEYMOON?
A trip to moon?…. lol
Well maybe if you want go the moon… but really Honeymoon is a trip taken by newly-weds to celebrate their marriage in seclusion and intimacy.
The wedding ceremony itself is the celebration for the family and friends, while the honeymoon is the celebration for the couple.
Even though the concept of the honeymoon is not entirely new to Nigerians, there are a number of misconceptions and assumptions that need to be shed
ASSUMPTION NO 1: THE HONEYMOON IS UNNECESSARY
FACT: The honeymoon is VERY IMPORTANT. This is your own special celebration and an opportunity to bond and nurture your powers of communication. The bond and memories you build during this period could hold your marriage during tough times.
As the topic of matrimonial success and divorce is studied more and more, research is showing that how a couple weathers their first two years together can make or break their marriage. A study, “The Connubial Crucible: Newlywed Years as Predictors of Marital Delight, Distress, and Divorce” by Ted L. Huston, John P. Caughlin, Renate M. Houts, Shanna E. Smith, and Laura J. George was published in “The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology” ( 2001; 80:237-252).
According to Dr. Huston of the University of Texas at Austin, “This study showed that couples’ newlywed marriages and changes in their union over the first 2 years foreshadow their long-term marital fate after 13 years… disillusionment—as reflected in an abatement of love, a decline in overt affection, a lessening of the conviction that one’s spouse is responsive, and an increase in ambivalence—distinguishes couples headed for divorce from those who establish a stable marital bond.” The researchers discovered “differences between the happily married and unhappily married groups were apparent right after they tied the knot.” (source: About.com)
So before you decide to feed all your neighbours and passers-by, ask yourself how much your spouse and marriage means to you.
TIP: As soon as you start planning for your wedlock, set aside a percentage of the total budget for your celebration, your honeymoon. It is a part of your wedding, not an after project. Google ‘wedding checklist’ and you will see that the honeymoon is always part of the entire wedding agenda.
ASSUMPTION NO 2: IT IS EXPENSIVE, ESPECIALLY AFTER THE EXPENSES OF THE WEDDING.
FACT: The honeymoon can cost whatever you want it to cost. You can decide to spend millions or a few thousands, it is up to you. You will need to budget for it and prioritize like you will with other aspects of the wedding. Just like you may spend less on food and more on entertainment or vice-versa, you can choose to have a small or lavish honeymoon. It is totally up to the two of you.
TIP: Discuss with a Honeymoon Consultant about the options for a honeymoon package for your peculiar budget. You will find out that there are lots of factors that can affect the cost of a honeymoon. For example, my favourite honeymoon destination is Maldives, which is about the most romantic destination in the world. I have planned honeymoon packages to Maldives from 790K to 3.5 million. The difference tells you the variables are much.
ASSUMPTION NO 3: IT IS BURDENSOME, WE CAN DO IT LATER WHEN WE HAVE THE TIME.
FACT: The honeymoon can be entirely stress-free, if you get the help of a honeymoon consultant. Just like your wedding, if you decide to personally handle all the details, from food to decoration, you are almost certain to get a nervous break-down on your wedding day. Properly handled, the honeymoon becomes your escape for distressing after the exertions of the wedding ceremony.
TIP: Decide on where you want to spend your honeymoon months before the time and make all the necessary arrangements. Most honeymoon destinations are well sought-after and need paid bookings long before the honeymoon time.
WHERE ARE THE BEST HONEYMOON DESTINATIONS FOR NIGERIANS?
All things considered, including visa issues and accessibility, the best honeymoon destinations for Nigerians include: MALDIVES; MAURITIUS; DUBAI; SEYCHELLES; CAPE TOWN/ SUN CITY/ DURBAN, SOUTH AFRICA; MOMBASA, KENYA; ZANZIBAR, TANZANIA; GAMBIA; GHANA. There are also a number of cool places in NIGERIA that honeymooners can enjoy.